P***ed off royally

I'm very, VERY aggravated at my husband. Long story short, his dad passed away suddenly in April. His mother told him that he would be getting $10,000 from the life insurance that his dad had. She even gave him the date that he would receive it, and the policy number and all that. (not what I'm mad about, btw) He started a new job back in September, and apparently without telling me, took a week off around the time he was supposed to get said life insurance money. The money was supposed to be there on Friday, November 14th. It wasn't. I was a little puzzled when he didn't go in to work, so I asked him about it. He told me that he had taken the 14th through the 21st off. I managed to keep my cool (barely) and told him that if that check wasn't coming, that he needed to go ahead and go to work. Saturday rolls around (True's birthday) and he still isn't going in. I ask him again what's going on and he tells me that since it was True's birthday, he was going to stay home. So, of course, I didn't argue. Same thing on Sunday, but at least he had the decency to pretend to call his supervisor. He has Mondays off, so I couldn't say anything about Monday. Tuesday is an optional "work for extra cash" day. I made him call, and he at least pretended to, but didn't go in. I'm really getting fed up with it. Since he started, not counting this "vacation", he has taken 4 days off and been sick one more. I'm not trying to sound like a money grubbing bitch or anything, but we have bills to pay. I'm working too, and cant cover all of the bills on my paycheck and still be able to afford the gas to get back and forth to work. He spent 2 months this summer without a job, just because he didn't want to look for one, or couldn't find one that he would like. When he finally did get a job, it was because I had found him one and filled out the application, all but signing of course, and turned it in. I scheduled his interview, I forced him to go in. He decided that he didn't like it, so he went out and got the one he has now. Mind you, the one he has now is a very good job, but it almost seems like he is trying to get himself fired. I have been married before to a man who didn't work. I hate being the breadwinner, plus being the homemaker on top of that. That is why I'm so angry that he refuses to help me out around the house. I'm not supposed to pick up and carry heavy things, but he wont take the laundry to the basement for me (where the washer and dryer are.) I'm not supposed to do a lot of bending, but he wont pick up the floor when the kids make a mess with their toys. He refuses to pick up after himself. He is becoming more lazy and slovenly by the day, and I'm at my wit's end. What's a girl to do??